Nursing isn't easy.
There are going to be long and stressful days. There are going to days with frustratingly demanding and suffering patients. There are going to be days with difficult co-workers and rude doctors. There are going to be days where you just want to scream. Or cry. At the same time.
But that shouldn't be every day.
My name is Robb, and I'm a nurse and Life Coach. I coach because I am passionate about helping my fellow nurses navigate both the practical and emotional challenges that come with working in healthcare today.
I love being a nurse. I've helped people laugh when they wanted to cry. I've held their hands when they finally realized they weren't going to get better. I've drawn their blood and suctioned their trachs and pretended not to notice when they farted.
I also gained 20 pounds my first year, felt like my student loan debt was literally drowning me (ok fine, I mean figuratively), and eventually started having exhaustion-induced anxiety after working too many rotating night shifts. My superhero cape kept getting heavier and heavier and heavier, and I wasn't sure what to do.
So I turned to coaching, and found that the tools really helped me. I looked at what I was doing and deliberately changed the things that weren't giving me the results I wanted. I put my financial life in order. Instead of doing things that temporarily numbed my feelings (I'm looking at you box of Costco chocolate chip cookies) I started doing things that actually made me feel better.
I learned that feeling less is not the same thing as feeling better, and I wanted to feel better. Nursing was still hard, but I started feeling and doing better anyway.
As a coach, I work 1:1 with clients by phone to help them wear that cape better and easier. Nurses are not doomed to a future of anxiety and frustration and overwhelm. Because you can start taking better care of yourself. Today.
Often when people talk to nurses about self-care, they mention eating better and sleeping better and not getting involved in workplace drama. But even if these are generically positive suggestions, they don't really address the big picture. Getting a massage or reading a trashy novel could be a part of a useful self-care ritual. But so is getting out of debt. And importantly, so is learning about how your feelings are optional, and totally in your control. (Hint: that was the turning point for me.)
Great nurses do not have to be martyrs to the cause. It is a choice. And I choose better for myself. I hope you will too.
If you are ready to figure out how to get (and keep) your life back under your control, click the button below to schedule a free 30 minute Coaching Call and we can talk about what is going on for you, and how you can start getting the outcomes that you want.